tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1053597571455512086.post4561727484296689600..comments2022-03-25T19:15:39.909-07:00Comments on Unleashed: RELATIONSHIPS : The Joy of LABELSUnleashed Magazine News Centralhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10712351963157432879noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1053597571455512086.post-71370681322698996392012-04-29T16:48:08.174-07:002012-04-29T16:48:08.174-07:00This article is thoughtful and entertaining but I ...This article is thoughtful and entertaining but I feel like the writer doesn't truly understand the complexities that come with a relationship. A simple "I LOVE YOU" from boyfriend to girlfriend or vice versa can be nothing more than a person wanting express themselves. Every relationship in the world, formal or informal, has certain social rules, what the article refers to as labels. It wouldn't be a relationship without it. For example, the writer suggests that if two people really love each other it is okay to have sex with other people so long as it is for physical pleasure only. That would completely ruin the dynamic of the relationship; it wouldn't be a relationship anymore. I would argue that these labels on a couple that is truly in love with each other would not harm either individual. I would even argue that these labels have been good for women as well. As backwards as it may seem, I love my Tiffanys jewelry from my boyfriend. I see it as him trying to make me happy and as a token of his appreciation, not necessarily an attempt to get other men to back off. If that was its purpose, it certainly hasn't worked. In this day and age men are biologically and socially expected to be womanizers, so I think the labels are more for a woman's benefit than not.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1053597571455512086.post-26944717332771650332012-04-03T14:20:28.610-07:002012-04-03T14:20:28.610-07:00Thank you for your comment and showing your perspe...Thank you for your comment and showing your perspective so thoughtfully. There are commonalities (qualia, they are sometimes called) in life at all times. I was trying to touch on the idea of not letting these commonalities haze out personal preferences. Nonetheless, your comment is insightful and well written. We need more like these! Email me at sashalm13@berkeley.edu if you're interested in writing for Unleashed. I think that you might have left comments before. Thanks again. -UnleashedUnleashed Magazine News Centralhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10712351963157432879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1053597571455512086.post-67851058562696835482012-04-03T13:55:35.099-07:002012-04-03T13:55:35.099-07:00This is more of a linguistic argument than it is a...This is more of a linguistic argument than it is advice on relationships. The article fails to account for the commonality of human experience as justification to labeling. If a "one night stand" wasn't a common human experience there wouldn't be a label for it in the same way there is a label for as abstract a concept as "love". Commonality of abstract concepts and experiences warrants labeling, if it didn't we could not use words to describe anything that wasn't concrete.<br /><br />The beauty of words is that their power to describe is limited. It is understood that the qualitative experience of a "one night stand" is different for every participant, just like it is understood that the word "love" means something different to everybody.<br /><br />Labels are not boxes for concepts but ways to connect to other human beings by describing certain qualities that are common in human experience.<br /><br />The article assumes that those pursuing romantic relationships desire a certain uniqueness in their relationship which might not be true for all. If you feel entitled to a unique experience, I agree you should go out and make new labels, but do not disregard the ones already in existence, unless, of course, you sometimes tend toward solipsism.<br /><br />"I define nothing. Not beauty, not patriotism. I take each thing as it is, without prior rules about what it should be." -Bob DylanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com